How to Find a Girlfriend

 No matter what stage of life you’re at, finding a girlfriend can be really hard. Your friends may have no problems finding great girlfriends, but maybe you keep finding yourself on your own. Finding a girlfriend involves getting out into the world, being open to meeting new people, and getting help from friends.

Finding Potential Girlfriends

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Identify your criteria. Think about the things that you definitely want in a girlfriend. Perhaps you want to find someone who shares your religious views or someone who definitely wants children. Identify your “must-haves” in a potential girlfriend.

• Think about both major and minor criteria. Someone with the same life views as you is probably important. But you might also think about whether you want someone who will run marathons with you, or someone who will binge-watch TV with you, or someone who works in the same industry as you.
• While you may want a girlfriend who you think is extremely physically attractive, avoid putting this at the top of your list. Your relationship should be based on something less superficial than good looks.

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Get out into the world. Chances are, you’re not going to meet anyone if you stay holed up in your house. Get out of your usual routines and hang out in public places where you might meet new people. Think about visiting these types of places frequently:

• Grocery store
• Bookstore or library
• Coffee shop
• Park
• Hiking trail
• Music shop

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Try new activities. If you’re having trouble finding potential women to date, you may need to try something new to open up your circle of acquaintances. Try a new hobby or join a club, such as skiing or hiking.

• Try to have some level of interest in the activity. Don’t just pretend to like an activity because there are lots of girls doing it too. Otherwise, you will start off a potential relationship with falseness.
• If you are in school, try taking a different type of class than what you normally take. Even if you don’t feel like you’re a creative person, you might take art or drama class. You can get to know this girl in one of her favorite classes.

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Be open to different types of people. You may have a very particular idea about what kind of woman you’re attracted to. But there are all types of people with whom you can become very good friends and potential romantic partners. Try not to judge a book by its cover.

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Make friends with women. Expand your social circle by getting more women friends. You may have initially considered a woman as potential girlfriend material but then decided it wouldn’t work out. Don’t immediately write off this person. You two can still be friends. What’s more, she probably has lots of girlfriends.

Asking for Help in Finding a Girlfriend

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Let people know you’re looking. Many relationships happen because someone told his friends that he’s looking for a relationship. Your friends might know someone who is single and looking, and they might help you make a connection.

Visit the match.com

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Be friendly and light-hearted. People generally appreciate a good sense of humor. Be friendly and make light-hearted jokes to make the girl laugh.^[2] There are a lot of different situations that lend themselves to demonstrating your sense of humor. Try making jokes at the following things:^[3]

• The circumstance around you. If you’re at a park or walking down the street and you notice something funny, say something about it.
• Make a joke about yourself. If you’re really tall, talk about how you can see the next city from your viewpoint.
• Tell a funny story about yourself. Did you get into a silly fight in middle school? Tell her about it, and be sure to include the details about the ridiculous clothes you wore at the time or what song you rocked out to right before you got into the fight.
• Talk about current events. Some things that happen in the news or with celebrities can be good material for making jokes.
• These jokes might work well as your personal inside jokes later on.
• Careful not to use crude or offensive humor. Until you know someone very well, this type of humor should be avoided at all costs.

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Give her a compliment. Show her that you’ve noticed something about her by complimenting her on it. For example, you might tell her:

• ”I really like your hair long like that.”
• “You made some really smart points in the class debate today.”
• ”You’re really easy to talk to.”

Improving Yourself

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Be confident. Having confidence will demonstrate to a potential girlfriend that you consider yourself worthy of knowing. Believe in your abilities, treat others with respect, and carry yourself with confidence.^[5]

• Having positive and confident body language will convey to other people that you respect yourself and that you are confident. This type of body language includes making regular eye contact, smiling a lot and acting friendly, and standing up straight.

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Be yourself. Acknowledge who you are and what you really like. Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. Don’t try to please other people who want you to change. Take pride in your strengths and the qualities that make you unique.

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Lead a healthy lifestyle. This will show potential girlfriends that you care about yourself enough that you treat your body well. Eat plenty of healthy foods, get enough sleep, and get regular exercise. Cut back on alcohol and stop smoking.